我的六月到了~

最Q的儿童节过后，就要到生日了，今年正赶上端午节。妈妈说过了端午天就不会再凉了，可以正式拥抱夏天了8|

周末忙碌了许久，和老爸去市场搬了很多花花草草回来。海棠开的真是惊艳，火红火红的，妈妈进门的时候竟然以为它是假地，汗！据说阳台挂着的那种植物叫做袋鼠兰，没去考证过，不过橙色的花真像袋鼠的大肚皮。最庞大的是一株白兰花，每片叶子根部都长着花苞，一串串，大大小小，客厅里花香四溢

我自己种的花籽已经发芽长叶了，每天看着它们一点一点长高抽叶，美哉~幸福生活就是要这样精心浇灌的

C在的那天做了PIZZA，我的哄培旅程开始了~第二站：蛋塔

艳阳的六月，晚风轻佛的六月，开吃西瓜的六月，花草繁茂的六月，我爱的六月，我的六月。

又忙乎了阵子，太琐碎以至于不知道要记录些什么。


05.5.30
一朋友忽然性情大变，本来嘻嘻哈哈的他，忽然无语。
先前他曾认真地跟我说过：朋友之间再开心，也比不过某个人的一个拥抱来的温暖和安慰。
我想，他是真的寂寞了，而我却无能为力。

漫漫旅程，一个孤单的个体凭自己的能量可以走多远？
想起前些天晚上去见陌生人的情形，可以快乐地海阔天空，灿烂地微笑。之后，却是一片空白。每天经过生命的那么多人当中，有多少人只是匆匆而过，多少人留下了些许印记，又有多少人可以驻足停留。
遇见一个可以相互辉映的人，是多么难得。不是简单的1+1，这种特殊的化学反应迸发出来的能量可以照亮整个人生。

昨天在看到这首歌的MV，于是找到了歌，喜欢。。。


最初的梦想

歌手:范玮琪


如果骄傲没被现实大海冷冷拍下
又怎会懂得要多努力
才走得到远方


如果梦想不曾坠落悬崖
千钧一发
又怎会晓得执着的人
拥有隐形翅牓


把眼泪装在心上
会开出勇敢的花
可以在疲惫的时光
闭上眼睛闻到一种芬芳


就像好好睡了一夜直到天亮
又能边走着边哼着歌
用轻快的步伐


沮丧时总会明显感到孤独的重量
多渴望懂得的人给些温暖借个肩膀
很高兴一路上我们的默契那么长
穿过风又绕个弯心还连着
像往常一样


最初的梦想紧握在手上
最想要去的地方
怎么能在半路就返航
最初的梦想绝对会到达
实现了真的渴望
才能够算到过了天堂
绝对会到达

Saying Good-bye to Cambridge Again


Very quietly I take my leave
As quietly as I came here;
Quietly I wave good-bye
To the rosy clouds in the western sky.

The golden willows by the riverside
Are young brides in the setting sun;
Their reflections on the shimmering waves
Always linger in the depth of my heart.

The floating heart growing in the sludge
Sways leisurely under the water;
In the gentle waves of Cambridge
I would be a water plant!

That pool under the shade of elm trees
Holds not water but the rainbow from the sky;
Shattered to pieces among the duckweeds
Is the sediment of a rainbow-like dream?

To seek a dream? Just to pole a boat upstream
To where the green grass is more verdant;
Or to have the boat fully loaded with starlight
And sing aloud in the splendor of starlight.

But I cannot sing aloud
Quietness is my farewell music;
Even summer insects heap silence for me
Silent is Cambridge tonight!

Very quietly I take my leave
As quietly as I came here;
Gently I flick my sleeves
Not even a wisp of cloud will I bring away




再别康桥

——徐志摩

轻轻的我走了，正如我轻轻的来，

我轻轻的招手，作别西天的云彩。

那河畔的金柳，是夕阳中的新娘，

波光里的艳影，在我的心头荡漾。

软泥上的青荇，油油的在水底招摇；

在康河的柔波里，我甘心作一枚水草！

那榆荫下的一潭，不是清泉，是天上虹；

揉碎在浮藻间，沉淀着彩虹似的梦。

寻梦！撑一支长篙，向青草更青处漫溯，

满载一船星辉，在星辉斑斓里放歌。

但我不能放歌，悄悄是离别的笙箫。

夏虫也为我沉默，沉默是今晚的康桥！

悄悄的我走了，正如我悄悄的来，

我挥一挥衣袖，不带走一片云彩！

能做喜欢又擅长的工作是件无限幸福的事。
只有做翻译的时候，自己才是全身心投入废寝忘食的。成就感自不必多言。
I LOVE THIS WORK.

     琐碎的装修接近尾声，我的漂泊生活也要告一段落。

     花了很长时间整理东西，发现自己竟有这么多牛仔裤，这么多储蓄罐，这么多玻璃花瓶。。。每一件都有一小段历史，长长短短，让我一边整理一边回想，不觉得寂寞。要感谢爸妈，从不曾有窥探我内心的好奇，让我可以这样随性地到处涂鸦，那些即兴写下的文字在笔记本上，在草稿纸上，在信封背面，在衣服吊牌上，在书皮的内页。。。零零总总，让我感觉到生活的充盈与真实。


     新家是非常诱人的，像一大块点缀着巧克力和各色水果的Cheese蛋糕。
     漂亮的柚木色地板散发着檀木的清香，简洁的水晶吊灯映衬着米黄色墙面，下面是围成一圈的夹着木质装饰的浅棕色豹纹皮沙发。餐厅有8个吊灯，手工吹制的玻璃呈现鱼鳞般层叠交错的纹路，把大理石台面的餐桌照得十分亮堂，六把金褐色餐椅是我挑的。厨房是老爸的最爱，白墙配白厨，肉粉色缀着红绿碎花的台面很是抢眼。客卫的干洗部分是橙色系的，橙色的台盆橙色边的架子和镜子，最绝的是老爸配的橙色吊灯，洗手的时候让我感觉自己是一只快乐的大橙子：）淋浴房进入水系的世界，白色和浅蓝色的瓷砖上有一个个小圆突起，让整个湿洗室充满了立体感，湖蓝色的防滑地转用浅绿色填逢剂勾勒出明显的格子形状，大大的花撒很合我的心意，每次洗澡它就开一次“花”。书房是浅绿色的墙面，白门的转角书橱搭配绿色的沙发床很是清新可人，今后这里会成为我常时间蜗居的领地。卧室很简单，衣橱加床加床头柜加电视柜。接下来是妈妈最爱的储藏室，可以放好多东西哦，隔壁是主卫，白色系配厨房一样的台面，很酷。

     旧的不去，新的不来。去的是旧的壳子，来的是新的生活。

A relationships coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term marital success. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms.Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love." I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love alone.

Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come.

Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone.

You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.


QUESTION #1:
* Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom line -and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2:
* Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3:
* Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing".

So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time?

Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth, and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4:
* How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, busdrivers, taxi-drivers, etc. How do they treat friends and colleagues? How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you--who can't do nearly as much for them! You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5:
* Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married.

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage .... for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.


CONCLUSION

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

1.视爱情为生活奢侈品:有最好,没有也能活.
2.若工作计划与男友约会档期冲突,取前者－－－－前者不会辜负你(且越老越不会,除非你当三陪).
3.签任何合同之前至少看三遍－－－－最具挑战性的合同是婚约.
4.小女孩用吸烟,夜游,多交男友表示成女人------你就不必了.
5.随缘,但不是说不努力.
6.手袋内必备物品:丝袜一双(穿裙子时),小手电筒一个(夜归时),防身喷雾一瓶(偏僻处单独行动时－－－－最好不要到偏僻处单独行动),巧克力或蔬菜饼干一小板(加班时),好牌子护肤霜一盒(任何时候),钱包,里面有钱(任何时候).
7.为了你的身心健康可养一只宠物,为了宠物的身心健康,则不要养－－－－据说它们太孤独了也会得忧郁症.
8.每天吃维生素丸,坚持补钙,否则在浴缸里面一跤摔断腿,即使你能爬出来打急救电话并在医生赶来之前披上衣服恐怕也得在床上躺3月,一个夏天不能穿裙子.
9.每月记帐.
10.人越少则冰箱要越要大,精神空虚,食物(高蛋白,多纤维,低脂肪,少热量,少食多餐)填充,若打开冰箱没有食物可鼓励你努力工作.
11.若常常需要早起开会,请备高分贝闹钟一个－－－－睡眠特好的人备三个.
12.酒吧里认识的男子就不必留电话了.
13.最好不要让初次约会的异性知道你住所,若对方坚持送,那么到楼下即可－－－－相信我,他不”顺便上去喝杯茶”也不会渴死.
14.若连续六个月每月置衫超过十件,考虑买房.
15.自己开车,车子比男人好的地方是:它不会自己跑掉－－－－当然它可能被偷,但你可以买保险,男人则不能买保险.
16.买保险.
17.如果没车,不要买白皮鞋.
18.办公室备一件厚外套,一把伞.
19.同事的恭维就象香水,可以闻,但不要喝.
20.如果不幸你爱的男子有另一个女人,无论是老婆,未婚妻或女朋友,请不要动念头和她”见面谈一下”,没必要－－－即时走人!
21.永远不要问这个问题:”为什么不爱我\?”
22.不要预先说出决心
23.男人对自己的好色就象律师对罪犯:明知有罪也要辩护－－－你知道就是啦.
24.没有任何事,任何人会重要到需要你过了半夜12点还苦想不睡.
25.即使美若天仙,也要讲道理.
26.也可以去相亲,但事先一定打听清楚对方的尊姓大名－－－－否则连续三个周末梳妆打扮齐整,跟着不同的红娘羞答答去见同一个无聊男子,那实在太戏剧性了`````
27.若没有五位数出场费,不要参加”非常男女”之类的电视节目.
28.务必结交三五死党(同性最好),否则有可能在头疼脑热时要汤没汤要水没水最后把嘴伸进热带鱼缸或马桶内解渴```或心脏病突发死在床上八天都没人发觉.
29.任何时候都不要喝多```头天晚上吐的东西次日早上还要自己收拾,可能会吐第二次.
30.抽屉里放好必备药品.
31.家里的安眠药不要超过10粒.
32.即使你”真的”没有男友,备一只安全套也不多余.
33.真诚微笑,别怕皱纹.
34.获得智慧,需以青春为代价.
35.元宵节,中秋节,情人节若无节目可主动要求加班－－－－免得出门触景生情或回家独自神伤,且给老板一个好印象.
36.生日时自己预定大束鲜花差人送到办公室－－－－和父母家.
37.学会做几个好菜.
38.周末给自己炖汤.
39.已结婚的前男友打电话来问最近好不好－－－－说好.
40.过去,童话故事是以”很久很久以前````开头的,现在,童话故事是以”如果我还没有结婚`````”开头的,你已经过了听童话的年龄了.
41.若确实有需要,可(在办公室以外的地方)上网给自己定购一个”仿真物品”但注意卫生,防止感染塑胶细菌.
42.同居前请查体.
43.想的时候,想想再说.
44.不想的时候,说不.
45.若没有感情,不如去打网球.
46.爱你的工作,不要爱上你的上司.
47.不要动念头做单亲妈妈－－－孩子不需要父亲,但你需要一个照顾孩子的人,非常需要有人照顾.
48.多赚点钱,但不要多到谁看上你你都要疑心的地步.
49.有望得到的要努力,无望得到的不介意,则无论输赢,姿态都会好看.
50.其实,人生即使有伴也是寂寞的－－－－不如及早培养兴趣,中年之后,种花养鱼.
51.有人称赞你年轻,还是应该高兴的.
52.谈恋爱就象打麻将,不认真没乐趣,太认真易伤心－－－－培养点游戏精神.
53.不必对新男友坦白过去,如果爱他,尤其不必.
54.与任何人,在任何情况下都不拍欢爱之镜头.
55.真喜欢一样东西,就买吧.
56.穿新鞋出门前,多试几步.
57.家具轻便,简洁,易清理,好搬动,若没有工程天才,别买”宜家”之类需自己动手装配的新潮玩艺(名词解释:锤子:一种专门用来砸破手指的工具.)
58.中年发迹而离婚的男人求婚,说不.
59.曾经背叛过你的男人想回头,说不.
60.你曾经背叛的男人请你回头,说不.
61.````````已经到了这个时候,就更不要将就了.
62.答应请求时面带微笑,说不的时候清晰肯定.
63.男人的主要功能时产生精子－－－－但我们现在有了精子银行.
64.独居的好处之一是,你不必在一个很久以前爱过的人的臂弯醒来.
65.保持青春的秘诀,有颗不安定的心!
66.征婚广告不是情书.
67.出门散步穿双平底鞋,带好电话.
68.无论蕾丝内衣还是工作报告,简洁都是最好的.
69.浪漫是一袭美丽的晚礼服,但你不能一天到晚都穿着它啊.
70.嫁大款就象抢银行,收益总很大,但后患无穷,若能不试,还是不试为好.
71.对男人的考验,怎么说呢－－－－就像智力测验,目的就是想看看他到底有多蠢.
72.对于一个错误的诺言,你要有勇气违背它.
73.大事坚持原则,小事学会变通.
74.培养些小小的好习惯,比如早睡,比如饭后漱口,比如喝淡茶,比如工间操－－－－好习惯如同零钱罐,每天放一点,年终会惊喜.
75.任何东西都不能以健康做交换.
76.一个人是否可靠,全看你用什么样的手段控制他.
77.一切都不需争论,只需给出结果.
78.男人总是向不把他看在眼里的女人献殷勤－－－－命运也是.
79.想满意,自己做,菩萨合掌念菩萨,求人不如求己.
80.不要借钱,若一定要借,借银行.
81.不要借给人钱,若一定要借,别打算他还.
82.学着理财,即使你学的是考古或小提琴.
83.别用男朋友的生日做密码－－－－常常换,很烦的.
84.换男朋友的时候,记得换防盗门.
85.太在意一个男人往往得不到他－－－－钱也一样.
86.床买大一点,可以横着睡,枕头要两个,枕一个,抱一个.
87.床头放本好书.
88.床上用品一定要品质好的,男人也是一种床上用品.
89.每天大笑几次对身体好－－－－若没人给你讲笑话,看(猫和老鼠).
90.找一项有兴趣的体育活动.(做爱不算),坚持.
91.心情失落时不要淋雨,听慢歌,看悲情电影.泡在浴缸内喝红酒,叫个女友去爬山.
92.每天抱怨,唠叨,自怜的时间不要超过10分钟.
93.不要常常计算得失－－－－那是保险公司和你的对手的事.
94.遇到好男人不妨追.
95.若你的女友的丈夫事律师,医生,经济人,出版商,电脑高手－－－－不妨请他给自己参考买搂,保险,投资,出书,装软件－－－－－但记得每次均邀伉俪同往.
96.诚实是一种美德,但不必因此就随和女友抨击她丈夫,跟同事一起讨伐老板.
97.衣服买少一点,好一点,三季没穿一次的衣服即可送人.
98.里子比面子重要,保养品当然比化妆品多,好,贵.
99.工作之余,尽量在室外活动.
100.若无杀伐决断之天才,不要给人做情妇.
101.不要在想让你哭的人面前哭.
102.女人有左右大脑,男人有左右睾丸.
103.祈祷,不如思考－－－－－上帝一定不是女人,否则不会创造这么多不完美的女人.
104.老而弥纯是可耻的.
105.时代不同了,男女都一样,接保险丝,修马桶,换轮胎,装杀毒软件并不比生孩子更难.
106.每年做妇科检查.
107.了解自己的身体状况.
108.钥匙一定要在父母或好友家存一套.
109.若你的房间越来越雪白素净,访客越来越少,桌面地板不允许有一丝灰尘,听到孩子的吵闹会心烦,每天洗手超过20次－－－－－去看心理医生.
110.即使你真的不喜欢小孩,也不要说出来.
111.别逼男人撒谎,他会恨你,也别把他的话当真,你会恨他.
112.忌妒会要人命－－－－要是你没了命,你就没有了你生命终很重要的一部分－－－－
113.私人朋友不要常到办公场所找你.
114.不必好奇别人怎样评价你,想想你是怎样评价他的.
115.你看,男人从不开口向人请教如何才能让婚姻和事业两全其美的问题.
116.爱不是做爱－－－－－爱是,想和他一起睡觉.
117.所谓绅士,就是会用双肘和膝部支撑自己体重的男人.
118.简单说,常常让你微笑的男人就是好男人.
119.－－－－－是的,还是爱更重要一点.
120.感情之事,知其不可而不为.
121.不要高估自己所没有的东西的价值.
122.别和道德观和你不同的人有私交.
123.若再不开始孝敬父母就太迟了!!
124.对女朋友要忠诚.
125.尊严感如胸衣,把女人托的高贵,但故意显露,则流于庸俗.
126.椅子不舒服,不如站起来走.
127.保持身材优点有三: a资源紧张,可占少空间\; b跑起来比较快 c在男人心目中的份量,和浴室磅秤上的成反比.
128.你看上去有多大,其实就多大.
129.再爱他,也不必为他去隆胸.
130.不要迷恋包装绚丽的东西.
131.时尚杂志上的每季新衣是推荐给影星和模特的.
132.别逼他去当英雄－－－－肯帮你洗碗倒垃圾就是了.
133.若有机会上学,去上学.
134.快乐!
135.sophie tucker说:女人从出生到18岁,需要好的家庭,18到35岁,需要好的容貌,35到55岁,需要好的个性,55岁以后,需要好多钞票.
136.当然应该痴情等待那个对的人最终出现－－－－但在漫长无聊的等待中,你也可以先和不对的人聊聊天.
137.要知道,一个女人到了25岁还没有遇到那个”合适的男人”其实是一件幸运的事`````
138.记住:你只能活一辈子.